How To Create Stressless Holiday Season For Divorced Families

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The last two months of the year are the most stressful months for many people including divorced families. This is because the holiday season is full of mixed emotions like excitement, anxiety and guilt. These emotions are created by the thrill of the holidays and the stress related to the fact that the kids will only be able to spend each holiday with just one parent.

One way you can reduce the stress that you, your ex and your kids experience at this time of the year is to embrace the spirit of the season and to focus on the joy your kids should be experiencing.

Should You Buy a Gift for Your Ex?

The stress that kids experience during the holidays is directly related to how their parents deal with the holiday custody arrangement. If their parents are cool with the arrangements then the kids will be able to relax and actually enjoy the holidays.

While it is difficult to not be with your kids during the holidays, you need to do what you can to make your kids feel as if you are okay with the fact that they will be spending the holiday with their other parent. One way you can do this is to give your ex a gift.

A Gift From You or a Gift From Your Kids

The first option that you have for giving a gift to your ex is to give them a gift from you. This gift can be simple and inexpensive. The point of the gift is to show your kids that you still care about their other parent and that you are okay with them spending time with them during the holidays.

The second option that you have is to shop with your kids for a gift from them. Your excitement about the gift shopping will help to reinforce the fact that you are okay with them spending the holiday with their other parent and that you want them to be excited and to have fun.

You can even make this shopping outing a part of your own holiday celebration with them. This will help to alleviate some of the stress you are experiencing, and it will provide you and your kids with a happy holiday memory that you can share together.

Holidays, children and divorce can be difficult to balance. However, the key is to allow your kids to enjoy their holiday with both parents. Embrace the spirit of the season and create happy memories that will last a lifetime and remember, when you are family to your children you are also family to each other!

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