Decision Support System

Written by on June 4, 2012 in Lifestyle - No comments | Print this page


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Do you have a reliable decision support system?  When you have a tough decision to make, or find yourself in a jam, who do you call?  Your best friend, a sibling, a neighbor or a co-worker?

I can bet you turn to someone who shares your mentality.  Someone who will make the same decision you would make, were you thinking clearly.

A decision support system normally includes one, two or even three reliable people to whom you can turn when you can’t think clearly.

We all have those moments of confusion.  We’re not sure what to do about a situation and none of our own solutions sound practical.  Maybe it’s a career decision, a romantic problem or a just minor issue.  Depending on the problem, you probably have an order in which you will contact your support system.

If it’s a career decision, your first contact will be with someone who understands your working conditions.  Either they share a similar work environment or they listen to you gripe everyday about your job. The point is, you want to turn to someone who fully understands the big picture and has additional insights into your circumstances.

Whether you are currently in or away from your element, it’s important to have access to your decision support system.

How exactly does one create a support system?  Chances are, you already have people in your life that are perfect for your support system.

Here are a few criteria for selecting your team of trusted confidants.

  • Make sure each person is confidential and trust worthy.  You don’t want to bare your soul to someone who won’t keep your most private and inner thoughts a secret.
  • Select people who are compassionate.  I read recently, that it’s difficult for people who cannot identify with others to be compassionate.  The more I thought about it, the more sense it made.  If someone cannot understand where you’re coming from, don’t expect them to help you reach your desired destination.
  • Confide in people you know are honest and practical.  Don’t surround yourself with “yes men”. As nice as it would be to have people agree with everything you think and say, there is no growth in such a world.  If you’re not thinking straight, you want to talk to someone who will help balance any irrational thoughts you may be have.  In the same token, stay away from naysayers and negative thinkers.  There is nothing more frustrating than talking to someone who never agrees with anything you say.  These people are toxic.
  • Usually, people who have known you for a long period of time will have a better idea of your temperaments, and will therefore be able to guide you closer to your own practical thinking.
  • Last but not least, build your team with people who value your opinion as much as you value theirs.  If you aren’t someone your team turns to for reliable support, then don’t expect them to deliver thoughtful advice in your circumstances.

It takes time to build valuable relationships.  When you have a handful of people you feel comfortable confiding in, it will take a lot of pressure off you.  Don’t feel like you always have to go it alone.

Tell us about your special team of decision support system in the comment box below.  Are they lifesavers and angels in disguise?


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Alana Johnson

Alana Johnson tries to enjoy the simple things in life and writes for the Lifestyle category on Quality Life Resources. Living in the small New England town of Norwalk, CT, she looks forward to the warm summer months. To submit your own article for my category, please click HERE. View all Self Improvement articles.