Happiness is a Choice

Written by on July 20, 2012 in Lifestyle - No comments | Print this page


Is happiness a choice?  This question comes up at various times in life, in many conversations.  The idea that regardless of our circumstances, we can truly be happy, is too much for some people to accept.  Others however, embrace it and welcome the power of this simple concept.

For those of you who are on the fence, here are a few thoughts to ponder on the matter.

In the worst of circumstances, are there moments of happiness? Moments when you simply don’t care about the hectic pressures of life?  Of course there are.  No matter how brief those moments may be, they still exist.  And during those moments, you are peacefully content.

If your happiness depended on your circumstances, the people in your life, your financial status and your material possessions, then everyone who has those things should be happy.  But are they?

Many, many years ago, I was close friends with a woman who only dated wealthy men.  They bought her any and everything she wanted.  She always drove nice cars, took impressive vacations and wore expensive clothes.  I’m sure you’re thinking that my friend was pretty superficial and not very nice.  In reality, she was actually a very nice person.  She just knew what she wanted for her life.

Though I have many fond memories of my friend, the one that stands out above the rest was during lunch one summer.  We were talking about love and its many complicated entanglements.  My dear friend looked at me and with a straight face, confessed that she’d probably end up with a man that had no money, but she’d be so madly in love with him that she wouldn’t care that they lived in a one bedroom apartment.  She went on with her story and explained that he would probably drive a cab and she would spend her entire day anxiously waiting for him to get home.

You see, the reality of what we think will make us happy, and what really does make us happy aren’t always the same thing.  Deep down we all know this.  It’s a matter of how honest we decide to be with ourselves.

What do you think happens with the many celebrities who seem to have everything?  They are attractive, financially successful, talented and famous.  That sounds like what all us little people long for.  Yet, they have their share of misery like the rest of us.  They have problems with their children, they struggle with relationships and they definitely have to deal with the roller coaster we call life.  The big difference is, they have their issues plastered in the media for all to see.

So ask yourself this one question. No, not if you’re feeling lucky. Leave Eastwood and Company out of this.  The real question is, are you choosing to be happy?  The reality is, happiness is indeed a choice.  If you practice to be happy, it will eventually become second nature.  Even in the hardest of times, you can be happy.  Your life doesn’t have to be perfect for you to enjoy it.

Stop telling yourself that when this happens or when you get to this stage in your life, that things will be better and you will be happy.  If there are areas of your life that are causing unhappiness take action to improve them or change your outlook.

Repeat these words – I choose to be happy.  I choose to be happy.  I choose to be happy.  Repeating those words at least ten times a day will improve your perspective.  You will find that minor (and hopefully major) encumbrances have less of an effect on you.

That’s what it really comes down to.  How you allow your problems to affect you.  There are steps you can take to create a harmonious balance in your life, but as you work on those steps, also work on your perspective.

As you’ve probably guessed by now, I do believe that happiness is a choice. Say it, believe it, live it.  Make your life what you want it to be.

Is happiness a choice in your opinion?  Share your thoughts in the comment box below.

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Alana Johnson

Alana Johnson tries to enjoy the simple things in life and writes for the Lifestyle category on Quality Life Resources. Living in the small New England town of Norwalk, CT, she looks forward to the warm summer months. To submit your own article for my category, please click HERE. View all Self Improvement articles.