The Psychology Of (Having) Home

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You know that saying ‘home is where the heart is’? It is something we have commonly heard, and the meaning it pretty clear. Wherever you feel most loved, most comfortable, most yearn to be is your home.

That can be expanded on, of course. It could mean that where the people you love reside is home. Where you spent your happiest moments in life is home. The first place you think of when the word ‘home’ comes to mind is – you guessed it – home.

This brings up an interesting question about the psychology of having a home. Can we turn any location into such a place, and can more than one be qualified as one?

What really generated a sense of loyalty and devotion through the years, and how much of that is rooted in altered memory and nostalgia?

The Childhood Home

Childhood Home

For many people, the true sense of home is based around where they grew up. How many adults have you heard make the statement that they are “going back home for the holidays”, meaning their parent’s house?

While this is a more understandable statement for the more transient young person just starting out, such as a college student, it takes on a new tone when uttered by someone older.

Even people in their 30’s, 40’s and beyond might say such a thing, despite having long since established their own home and family life.

This is the result of nostalgia and having considered a place home during the most formative years of our lives. Even if there is no specific spot that holds that status for you, such as a house you grew up in, a city or state can still maintain that title.

You wandered the streets, played in trees, hung out with friends and ultimately faced many defining moments in your growth there. When linked to an actual house, these impressions can be even stronger.

Your Own House

Your Home

Really, anywhere you live is considered your home, and will feel like one…hopefully. But there is something special about a house you own, something you have invested your time and money into making it your own. Buying a house is one of the most central experienced as an adult.

The process of turning a house into a home, especially as an adult with a family of your own, is even more rooted in psychology. You are making the space a reflection of who you are now.

You are also embedding within it memories of who you once were, a sense of self you have since grown distant from. We all change and evolve, in everything from personality to interests. The way you set your home tells that story in a very real way.

It is also a reflection of your tastes and what is important in your life. Pictures of a spouse or children, of friends and other family. Paintings of beautiful scenes, or figurines taken from places you have been and want to return to.

Even simple concepts like what is aesthetically appealing to you in furniture and other enhancements around your home.

Walk through someone’s home and you will be able to get an immediate sense of who they are. Messy, tidy, uptight, easy going, bookworm, media junkie, art lover, modernist, traditionalist…these are just some of the impressions you can get with a single glance into a sitting room. That is how much of our personality and personal psychology we put into our homes.

Is there something about your home you feel says something about you? Do you believe in the psychology of having a home? Let us know your thoughts in the comments.

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Jessy Troy is the writer for Dobovo, privately-held company helping people to find homes. Jessy has a wide variety of interests including do-it-yourself, ecology, crafts etc.


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