5 Little Psychological Tricks You Can Use To Supercharge Your Relationship

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holding-handsWhether you are just getting started with someone that you really care about or you want to add a little spice to your existing relationship, you’ll find that there are many different ways to do so.

Supercharging your relationship means making it more lively while reminding both of you why you fell in love in the first place. Take a moment to consider these five steps to get you going!

Surprise Each Other

People love being surprised pleasantly. The problem is that so many surprises come with more problems than pleasure. For example, if you want to whisk your significant other off for the weekend, they may love the idea, but they also have to worry about work, babysitting and other responsibilities. Make sure that you think your surprises are well considered and that you do not give your significant other more than they can handle.

Do New Things Together

Shared experiences help you grow together. The problem with many couples is that as time goes on, they grow apart. The old chestnut of doing new things together has a real purpose. It helps you create memories together, and it allows you to see each other in whole new lights.

Consider going to a place that you have never been before or taking a class together. This can make a huge amount of difference to how you see one another. If you can see your significant other in a whole new light, it is bound to bring some energy back to your relationship.

Restrict Physical Contact

This one sounds counter-intuitive, but there is a reason for that. Do you ever find that your touches, playful and otherwise, are getting somewhat dull? This is an exercise that many professionals suggest for a couple that is going through intimacy issues.

When you are told not to do something, it becomes a lot more interesting than it was before. State that you cannot touch for a week and see how much more interesting your days become. This is something to discuss with your partner beforehand, but it can be a wonderful way to reconnect and to give your normal touches a little bit of zing!


Part of making sure that your relationship stays fresh and interesting is learning new ways to talk to one another, and one way to learn more about how you communicate is to be quiet. If you are not allowed to talk, you have to find new ways to get certain points across.

Perhaps you are interested in miming to one another, or perhaps you want to write notes back and forth. Not only will it be an interesting relief when you get the ability to talk back, you can learn more about how you do when things are so quiet.

Say Nice Things

It seems like a no-brainer, but the truth is that compliments make people feel good. However, when you live with someone day to to day, giving one another compliments can get lost in the details. Simply sit and make a list of all of the nice things you love about your partner.

You can read your lists to each other, or, if you are shy, you can simply hand the list over. If you are sincere and if you put some time and thought into your list, your partner will love it.

When you want to make sure that your relationship is moving along well, consider how you can increase your intimacy and your affection for your partner. Doing this can make a huge difference to the way that you interact with one another.

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This is a guest post.  Ronnie Baker is a marriage counselor and guest author at Best Psychology Degrees, a site with guides to top-rated online bachelors of psychology degree programs.


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