Dealing with a Bad Breakup

Written by on August 23, 2012 in Relationships - No comments | Print this page

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Relationships do not always work out. Everyone knows that and it is something you have to keep in mind every time you start dating someone new. No matter how much you may like someone, there is always the chance that the feelings may not be mutual and that you’ll be going your separate ways long before you planned to. Some people deal with breakups way better than others. Some people take a split so hard that it affects the rest of their life. If you have been in a relationship with someone for a long time, you may find that breaking up is even harder on you. Perhaps it’s because you had so many plans for the future together or did so many things and made so many memories. If you are having a hard time dealing with a breakup, here are some things for you to keep in mind.

Breaking Up is Bad News

No one likes to break up. Even if people say they’re okay, chances are that inside, they’re probably hurting. If you have just recently called it quits with someone you were dating, you’re probably hurting pretty bad right about now. They may appear to be fine, especially if they’re the one who said it was over. Maybe your ex has already moved on to someone new while you’re sitting around feeling sorry for yourself. The best way for you to move on and get over a bad breakup is to look at it in a more positive light. He or she wasn’t the one for you. There is someone out there for everyone and when you find that person, you will know it.

They will not only change your relationship status, but your life as well. If the person you just ended it with really is the one for you, he or she will come back. Another way for you to make the break up easier to deal with is to not seem desperate. Don’t call your ex. Don’t text your ex, and don’t look at your ex’s Facebook page to see if he or she updated the relationship status or uploaded pictures with someone else. It will only hurt you more. If your ex calls you, send the call to voicemail. When the past calls, it has nothing new to say. If your ex texts you, delete it and if your ex tries having another friend talk to you for them, tell your friend you simply don’t want to hear it. They’re not a messenger.

It Can Be Hard

Breakups can be really hard, especially if you had a lot invested in your relationship. You always need to keep in mind that people change, as do feelings and as a result, promises get broken. Even though you feel like crawling in a dark hole right now, know that the sun will shine again and you will find someone out there who is better for you and is even more perfect than your ex was. It will happen!

This is a guest post.  Justin V. is a writer for http://www.top-careers.org/. If you want to change your career, take a look at this site to help you find the greatest careers. 

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