No matter the reasons for how or why you find yourself single there are plenty of ways to get yourself back into the dating game and from online sites to introductions from friends, if you’re looking for love then there really are no excuses.
But, what to do when you think you may have found a match? Often that all-important first date can really make or break future assignations and if you want to give a relationship the best chance to flourish then you need to really think about where’s best to meet.
Great advice is to either email or text chat first so you can suss out your date then, when you feel comfortable and you’ve discovered some shared ground, you can both decide where you’re going to hook up.
The ideas below are based on real-life experiences and, although they may not work for everyone, they’ve certainly been tried and tested over the years so they’re worth giving a shot if you’re stuck for ideas.
An oldie but a goodie! Any first date that allows you to sit in the dark and not speak to each other for a couple of hours may seem slightly strange at first but actually it gives you a shared experience that can help to break the ice. Make sure you choose a film that you’ll both enjoy and then decide on a post-movie location from where you can chat about the film and each other’s likes and dislikes.
There’s nothing like a little bit of booze to get the conversation flowing but just make sure you don’t go over the top! Check out a few pubs first to make sure you’ll both be able to hear yourselves in a pleasant atmosphere and then arrange a time where you know it won’t be too busy. Pubs are generally considered to be laid back and relaxing so hopefully your first date will be too.
Dinner with friends
The thought of a blind date where you’ve both been set up by mutual friends can be a bit nerve wracking at first but often this is an ideal environment to get to know each other. There’s not so much pressure on both of you to keep the conversation going and watching each other in a social setting is a great way to find out what makes each other tick.
A visit to the zoo
You don’t have to be accompanied by children to go to the zoo and you may be surprised at how much fun you can have on a first date. There are loads of different sights, sounds and smells to make for interesting topics of conversation and a feeling of nostalgia can kindle a relaxed and happy attitude to ensure things go as smoothly as possible.
Museum or gallery
This is a classic first date venue and it really doesn’t matter if you’re interested in art or not, just sharing the experience of wondering around together is often all that you’ll need to feel happy in each other’s company. If you’re in London, try the Natural History Museum or perhaps the Tate Modern to really get your cultural juices flowing.
A first date is a thing of beauty and all of the venues above will no doubt enhance conversation and help you get off on the right foot. However, if you really want to create the right impression then make sure you’re feeling happy and confident within yourself before arranging to meet. Buy a new outfit, have your hair done or wear your favourite sexy underwear just so you feel that extra bit confident.
Once you set out on your date, just remember to enjoy yourself and don’t feel under too much pressure to make things happen too quickly. After all, this could be the first date of many or it could be just an encounter with someone that you’re never going to see again. Be safe, be happy and make the most of every moment.
Biog: Chris isn’t ready to get back into the dating game just yet but when he is then he’s got plenty of ideas up his sleeve to make that all-important first date as memorable as possible.
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