On one hand, dating can be exciting — that feeling of hopefulness that the next date could be the person you have finally been looking for, having fun and meeting new people, hitting it off and not being able to wait to see the other person again.
On the flip side, however, being single and trying to find a relationship can be disheartening — the date you were looking forward to was a total disaster, you fell hard for someone and the feeling was not mutual, etc.
The sweet always comes with the sour, and it is all just part of the process; but, there are some ways to navigate the dating world with greater ease and increase your chances of finding that coveted relationship.
Set Clear Intentions
One of the biggest barriers to getting what you want in life, whether it is a certain type of career or a certain type of partner is lack of clarity and intention. We have vague ideas of what we want and very clear ideas of what we do not want; but, focusing on what you do not want is in no way the same as determining what you do want — not even close when it comes from an energy perspective.
Muddy desires and intentions will produce muddy results. When it comes to finding a relationship, it is vital to get clear on exactly what you want in a partner. This clarity will offer many benefits, namely, helping you make better choices when it comes to who you spend your time with; it will also put wonderful, mysterious forces in motion that support us in getting what we want.
When it comes to dating, being open-minded will work to your advantage. You cannot even begin to anticipate the million different ways you can meet the right person. The more ways you are open to meeting people, the greater odds you will find a good match.
Internet dating used to have a stigma but now the internet is so ingrained into every aspect of our lives, the idea of using online dating sites can be a great avenue; they have sites for all types of people from those looking for people who share love of animals to seniors dating sites.
If you are struggling to meet someone and have sworn them off, just give it a go. Maybe you feel certain the person your friend is trying to set you up with will not be a good match, but go on the date anyway; maybe you are 100 percent right but you never know. My fiancée and I met in a loud, crowded horrible bar — both of us hate these types of environments and neither of us drink alcohol, but the stars were aligned that day.
Our need to pair off is strong and it makes facing the challenges of dating and failed relationships that much harder to deal with. This aspect of the human experience is particularly emotionally-charged. But, remember not to give up; take the time for self-examination that will help you figure out who you are, what you want out of life and the type of person you want to share that life with. Set strong intentions that you will meet the right person and success is guaranteed.
This is a guest post. Kelli Cooper is a freelance writer who enjoys writing about relationships and personal development.
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