Overcoming The Fear Of Dating

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Dating is an area that holds almost limitless possibilities for people. It can be a way of sifting through a number of different people and learning a huge amount along the way towards finding the person you want to be with. It is perhaps one of the biggest learning curves there is in life and one of the factors that makes it such a huge arena for self-discovery is the margin for error involved.

You will have heard the sentiment expressed on many occasions but learning from your mistakes is the best way to progress. With dating there can be pain and there can be fulfillment and it is the former that can deter a lot of people, either at the very start of their journey or after some damaging experiences. If you have developed a fear of dating then you do not have to stay a victim to it, it just requires acknowledgement and a commitment to losing the aversion.

Acknowledging your fear of dating

It is possible that you already recognise that you have become particularly uneasy about the whole idea of putting yourself out there and dating people. There can be any number of reasons behind this but breaking through this psychological obstacle is perfectly possible, if you want it to be.

There are many reasons people can begin to tell themselves about why they cannot date and if you repeat them to yourself for long enough then it is hard to believe otherwise. The same thing can work the other way in convincing yourself that you can date and it is all part of a wider process.

Commitment to change

It is definitely not an overnight switch to suddenly win yourself back around and to be ready to test the dating water again but through a sustained commitment to changing your way of thinking you can overcome this fear. Seeking the advice of people who can offer you their own experience is very useful, as is surrounding yourself with positivity in all the ways you can.

This can be stopping and thinking every time you have a negative reaction to something and deciding that you do not want to have that mindset any longer. There are a lot of incredibly helpful and insightful books and other forms of media out there that can be your guide to finding your feet with dating again and losing the unnecessary fear.

This is a guest post.  Article written by Sunetra Patel on behalf of the premier British Asian dating facility http://www.asiansinglesolution.com/.

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