Myth: When you meet ‘The One’, you’ll know it immediately.
Reality: It might happen, but it’s more likely your attraction will grow over time. It’s also entirely possible that somebody you thought was ‘The One’ turns out to be the wrong one.
You can’t know everything about somebody from eye contact across a crowded room. It’s only by taking time to get to know each other that you’ll know whether it’s right or not.
Myth: There’s only one perfect match for each person.
Reality: There are probably dozens of people in the world who are ‘perfect’ for you. You’ll never meet most of them. You might not even meet one of them. If you do, you might also just not be attracted to them. The idea of a perfect match is misleading and can keep you from exploring potential matches.
Myth: You have to put out. / You should never put out.
Reality: Both sides of this are dating myths. Of course, it’s important to stick to your own moral code, and the right guy will respect that. But there are no hard and fast rules about whether getting into a physical relationship will or will not lead to an emotional relationship. The most important thing is to stick to what you feel is right, whether that means you’re sleeping together on your wedding night or on the first date.
Myth: Men don’t want a woman to be smarter/earn more than them.
Reality: There are bound to be a handful of guys who are intimidated by a smart woman, or a woman who earns more than him. Let them go for women who want that type of guy. Don’t try to dumb yourself down or pretend your job is less than it is just to please a guy. It’ll only backfire in the long run, and make you both miserable.
Myth: Men like a bit of competition.
Reality: Unless you’re on some sort of reality dating show, a guy won’t want to have to do competitive dating. If you are seeing a few guys, that’s fine; you don’t need to tell any of them unless it’s getting serious. Lording other dates over any of them will just put them off, though. At the same time, don’t expect that he’ll tell you about every other girl he’s seen recently on the first date.
Myth: Make yourself a girly girl.
Reality: Be yourself! If you are a dainty little thing who wears heels and dresses and eats only salad, that’s fine. But it’s also fine if you like wearing flats and jeans and tuck into a burger now and again. Pretending to be something you aren’t is never a good idea. You want a match for the real you, not some cartoon version of you.
This is a guest post. This article was written by Kissy Bang Bang, a brand that believes there is a light hearted side to sexual health.
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